Servicehood is a privilege we are granted when we choose to walk down the path of recovery. Having found refuge in our collected practices, we become vessels of safety for others. In our actions, our thoughts, and our words, we create refuge for ourselves and for others who are in need.
We learn early on in the process that our lives are not without purpose. Despite our failures, our shortcomings, our misfortunes and our mistakes, we are not inherently worthless. Through each day we recognize more of our strengths, our abilities, and our passion. Our hearts soften, our spirits strengthen, and our compassion toward suffering is ever-growing. We develop kindness and empathy, practicing these virtues in all that we do. Thankfully, we don’t have to do everything right. Just because we have removed toxic drugs and alcohol from our lives and severed from our abusive relationships to them does not mean that we are suddenly enlightened and walking a noble path. Never have we signed up for perfection or had such demands made of our existence. We mindfully and tenderly recognize that we are learning as we go along.
Day by day our egos fade, opening our hearts to those around us. Like we practice meditation one minute at a time, we practice being of service through each small act.
Not all acts of service have to include a doing of something. Listening, though it is an action, can be more about not-talking than anything else. All too often we listen through anticipating ears. Eager to respond, be right, or prove ourselves we rarely hear what other people are saying.
Reaching Out a Hand
Whether it was someone on the other end of a phone call, a kind friend who came by, or the love of a family member- there was someone that welcomed us with loving arms when we decided to find help. Without judgment, shame, or criticism they reached out a hand to us. Having walked through the beginning phases of recovery, we can reach out a hand to others. Demonstrating empathy and solidarity with other people’s suffering so familiar to your own is a great act of service.
You may think meditating is self-serving. In truth, when we meditate and center ourselves, we do an incredible service to those around us. By enhancing our own mindfulness, we can be more presently attuned to the needs of others. Furthermore, we are grounded, able to communicate and act from a solid foundation. Meditating each day is a service to you and to those you love.
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