Discussing Male Rape

When we realize we have the choice to detach from our suffering, we find a great sense of empowerment. There are some sufferings, though, that can take all of our power away. Not only is the act traumatizing, but our culture barely believes in it, our judicial system only recently defined it, and our attachment to ideology prevents us from seeing it in a different way. Male rape is seeing the beginning of being taken seriously.

By the numbers

RAINN.org provides a wealth of statistics on male rape in America. For example, three percent of american men will experience rape in their lifetime. Child protective services is called for a report on sexual abuse every eight minutes. Sexual assault survivors are 13 times more likely to abuse alcohol and 26 times more likely to abuse drugs. Suicide, depression, and posttraumatic stress disorder are more than doubled in likelihood for men who have been the victim of sexual assault. A male is most likely to be sexually assaulted at the age of four.

A biased culture

The statistics for male rape are low in comparison to the numbers for female rape. This is for two reasons. One, females are sexually assaulted more often than men. Second, due to the pressure of cultural identities and stigma, most cases of male sexual assault is not reported. Females face a wealth of shame and criticism when they report rape. Males, too, face judgment. Rather than being judged for who they are and how they dress, males are evaluated for their very masculinity. Our culture teaches us that men don’t get raped. The masculine ego cannot be weak enough so as to allow such a mistake to occur.


Males face the same psychological issues females do in rape. A variety of treatment modalities can be used to treat the trauma that results from rape. EMDR, eye-movement desensitization and reprocessing, uses bilateral communication in the brain to completely change the way traumatic memories exist in the brain. Somatic Experiencing can relieve the symptoms of stored experience. Often victims of rape are criticized for becoming immobile when inappropriate touching or questionable comments began.Trauma can live in from the feelings not expressed in those moments or the years following, all healed through somatic experiencing.


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